Truth Process

For example, for the first one, “The reason I can’t seem to be successful is:”, you might put down

‘I’m bad’, or ‘I'm unlovable’, or ‘I don’t deserve to have success’.

Get the idea? Good. Now why not give it a try. Print it off, or read it on screen and jot down the answers on a piece of paper. Remember it’s for your eyes only so be totally honest. And don’t forget to do the clean up exercise after you’ve finished. That way you’ll be grounded and won’t dwell on the negative thought. Here goes

The reason I can’t seem to be successful is:

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What I’m most afraid people will think of me is:

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The one thing I don’t want people to know about me is:

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The reason I am helpless is:

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The reason life is a struggle for is:

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Now scan your five answers above. Is there one that really jumps out at you? Or, from a combination of all the answers, now write down

The most negative thought about myself is:

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There you have it. That is your most negative thought about yourself. And it is purely and simply a lie!! a thought you adopted and in time came to believe. Recognize it as that.

We all believe certain things about ourselves that are not true. These are our scripts. They become the story we make up about ourselves. We were given these scripts as very small children, often at the pre-linguistic stage. Or, they may go all the way back to our birth. They are what’s known as our Personal Lie.

This exercise is called the truth process because it reveals the truth about you that your script masks. It is sometimes used in rebirthing sessions, but I’ve adapted it here to suit this present format. It’s safe to do on your own, but, make sure you do the

Clean-up Process

Take the last one, your most negative thought you have about yourself, now turn it on its head. Say it’s “I don’t deserve to be loved”, write out

“I, [your name] wholly, totally and completely deserve to be loved”.

Write this out 20 times, 50, 100 times. As often as it feels right for you.

Next meditate on this for some time, think about the ridiculousness of the idea that you are not loved, wanted, successful, whatever your most negative thought was. Why, in all the universe would you be singled out to be thus? Isn’t it making yourself very, very special? It is in fact arrogant, if you think about it, to go on believing a lie about yourself.

Now resolve to change your mind.

And finally, for the next 21 days I want you to repeat your new affirmation to yourself as many times as you can. They say it takes 21 days to hardwire a new thought into your brain, hence that number. Say it as you walk to work, in the shower, anywhere. Do a shortened version of it, like,

‘I deserve to be loved’
‘I deserve to be loved’
‘I deserve to be loved’

Say this over and over, and over. Eventually this becomes your new reality.

Please commit to the 21 day part of it. This is important to erase your most negative thought, and cement the new truth into your brain. And it’s the part that most people don’t bother with, or are too lazy to do!