Attraction

what is the real meaning of attraction, and is law of attraction a misleading term ?

Law of Attraction: Proof of Pud

Law of attraction has been part of the new age culture for a long time now, but has become very popular in the more recent past due to films like the Secret and What the Bleep. These works have done a great service in introducing the whole concept of creating your own reality to people who have never heard about it before. However, they can lead to muddled thinking on the subject. Surely the measure of anything’s success is the results, and I think it’s fair to say most people have had very poor results from the law of attraction. A theory is of little value unless it is of practical use to people.

My take on this is a little different. Let me explain. If we have a belief or strong expectation about something then we will ‘make’ it come about. How? Well, if the desire is strong enough then we will just go ahead and do it. Even if it’s something that appears out of our control, say something we can’t afford at the moment. In that instance we will think about it, work around it, save for it, talk to friends about it, until one day we will orchestrate things in such a way that it shows up in our lives. I have seen this happen countless times. Now I know this is using your thoughts and feelings to create something but it’s doing something more.

When we have a particular frame of mind, set ideas about ourselves or the world, then we arrange things in our life to make them correspond to this. For example, age is a mindset. I’ve seen so many people when they reach the age of 30 start thinking they’re old, and then start acting old. You know the way people start oohing and ahhing as they get out of a chair, and putting a hand to their hip, or screwing up their eyes slightly as if they’re thinking, ‘I’m sure I could feel a twinge there’. They’re only 35 forchristsakes! This is genuine. What is happening is that they see other people do that and they imitate them. They see old people do it in particular. And they have a mindset, 30 is old. I’m over 30 now so I must be getting old. That’s how it works folks. It’s not the universe doing it to you. It’s you doing it to yourself!

Now the law of attraction would say they ‘vibrated’ at the rate of being old, and so the universe gave them creaky bones. But it’s roundabout, circumlocutory thinking and most of it is unnecessary. If you convince yourself of anything that’s the reality you will see in your life. That will be your reality, but it doesn't mean it is objective reality. When we live below the bar of wakeful consciousness then we mimic society and those around us, and so we pick up these habits and get these undesired results. But the good news is if we choose to cultivate new habits we will get those new results too. I know this is the same thing as what loa teaches, but it avoids all the roundabout thinking. And it avoids the perennial loa fear ‘am I vibrating at the right frequency?'

Lord help us!

Now, since we’re all composed of energy particles it is true that we are vibrating. But it’s a very abstract concept. Our feelings are a good guide but they are fickle. When something turns up that we didn’t expect (or want) our feelings take a dive. Then we start thinking we’re doing it wrong. The problem with ‘vibrations’ is that we can never really know how we’re vibrating. It can also become meaningless twaddle.

That’s not to say genuine people like Abraham Hicks or Joe Vitale are talking twaddle. They’re not. But some are.

It’s like when people did incantations of old. If you didn’t get your wish it was because you didn’t say the incantation right, or use the right tone, or say it at the right time of the moon. It was never because the incantation was rubbish in the first place. I can see a similar pattern with law of attraction. It’s fuzzy thinking and I don’t like FT. It can also be a get-out clause. ‘I mustn’t be vibrating at the right frequency that’s why I didn’t get my goal’. And new age thinking implies this, although it will never state it.


Attraction means to pull and you pull that to you that’s in your mind

Now real attraction is a different thing. I can be attracted to something because I have unfinished business there. Ever get the feeling you have to go to a certain place and then you do and you meet someone who has significance for you. That’s following your intuition, or gut feeling, that’s real attraction. By setting something up in your mind as a desired target you give it attraction, you give it pull. This is the real meaning of the term. So just get clear on what your beliefs are, and your mindset and you don't have to worry about the rate you vibrate at!

Hope that cleared it up Gemma. Next week I’m going to conclude my thoughts on this topic by looking at a dark and disturbing side to law of attraction. After that we have some juicy new topics to get into. Talk soon.

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