Time for ChangeWhat is it you’d like to change most about you? We all have things we want to be different; lose a few pounds, quit smoking, or drop some habit that’s holding us back. Or it could be a new career? Maybe we’ve been in the same job now for years and a fresh start would open new doors, new possibilities. It could be deciding to start thinking and feeling kinder towards others. Maybe take up a course of study, write a book, do something to change the world! Have you longed to start your own business but you’ve been putting it off? You just don’t seem to have time, there’s a fear at the back of your mind that you might fail, it could be telling you you don’t have enough money, or someone else has more qualifications in that area, and so you hesitate. These are natural feelings to have when faced with a new start in your life. I know I had them. Before I set up the uss I had all sorts of fearful thoughts that it wouldn’t work out. Boy how wrong could I be? Understand that change, real change, will always bring up resistance, that irrational urge that tries to make us put it off to another time. It’s like we see the thing we need to change as attacking us almost. However, embracing something new need not be threatening. Instead it can be a wonderful agent that facilitates us to grow into the fully conscious and happy beings we know we truly are inside. Genuine change comes from the Greater Mind, or Higher Self. This will always tell us when something in our lives needs changing or when it’s important for us to move forward. And it helps us every step of the way. New Year’s resolutions - Good or Bad ? Everyone makes new year’s resolutions, has plans for what they’re going to do, what they’re going to give up, only to find these dashed before January is up. Perhaps you’re one of those people. If you are, don’t despair, you’re not alone! Actually it’s probably the worst time imaginable to set definite goals and make life-changing decisions. Why? Because collectively we go through this ritual every new year, making great plans only to see them wither. And at a deep level, that’s what we want to happen. It’s like we’re giving ourselves permission not to go ahead with the change, to stay in our comfort zone, to do what we love doing – talking about the changes we know we want to make but never actually making them. It’s part of the cliché of the new year. As a consequence many people believe that it’s better to start our new year’s resolutions around mid January rather than January 1th, as we have a better chance of sticking to them at this time. I tend to favour the beginning of spring, which is pretty close anyway. (Now I know there is endless debate about when spring actually starts, but that’s a detour we won’t take right now, for me it’s always the beginning of February). There’s a natural organic change that occurs in nature (and we are part of nature) in springtime than can make it easier for us to make new choices that last and which will make a difference. It’s a time when nature herself makes changes, starts her own personal growth, puts aside the dead thoughts of winter and bursts forth new blooms of positivity and choice. It’s the natural time for newness. So if you feel the call to do something new in your life now, go for it. But of course, always follow your own inner guidance. Do it when the time is right for you. Follow your intuition. Now is the time to go for your dream. Make change a positive dynamic in your life. The problem is we tend to think of it as something bad, as negative. We think we are losing out in some way. We have a hidden belief that the new dynamic wanting to come into our lives, or coming into our lives, is happening because we’ve screwed up in some way. Too often we associate change with guilt, with making wrong some aspect of our lives. Never think about ‘giving up’ something, too often many new year’s resolutions and other important decisions are framed in this way. When we're coming from a place of giving up we are debasing ourselves. This is the wrong way to make new decisions. When we do this we are reacting to change rather than welcoming it. If I’m overweight I must be eating too much, or eating the wrong foods, or I’m ugly, or I’m going to die of a heart attack. These are the stupid thoughts society feeds me and which, if I’m not awake, I buy into. These become part of my own mental chatter. I feel then I need to ‘fix’ a part of me. I feel I’m not “right” somehow. There’s definitely a lot of ‘giving up’ to be done here, self sacrifice, self blame, self unworth. But this is completely the wrong way to approach change. It’s the very antithesis of what personal development is about. The alterations you make must enable you in some way, it must add to your level of happiness and self esteem, make you feel better on all levels than you were before. It’s not about the shape you are, whatever you are you’re perfect it’s about wanting to go beyond that. We never change by wishing things were different, we change by seeing ourselves as the person we want to be. This can be a problem if you want to lose weight, because every time you look in the mirror you see a fat person starting back at you! And that reinforces the negative story, it makes you think that you ‘must’ lose weight, which in turn sets up resistance. Begin by accepting yourself fully as you are right now. Then start seeing yourself as you want to be, and allow that you to emerge from within you. Now the amazing thing is when we do that we suddenly become free to take real action to make our lives different. The call to change mustn’t come from outside ourselves (that’s why I wary about it this time of year), it must always come from inside us, from that higher voice, that unmistakable voice that always tells us what’s right for us. Think about the great new life you will have when you’ve achieved this dream, picture yourself in it, and see yourself living it. The more you do this the more normal it will feel to you to be that way until one day you will just find yourself doing it. When something in us tells us our life needs to take a different turn that is a sign that we are awakening, that a higher part of us is telling us we’re ready for something better in life. See this as a great new adventure about to unfold, not as a dreaded disruption to your life. Sometimes change can be exciting, other times it can be scary, more again it will be challenging. But it should always be welcomed. Embrace it. Go for the changes you want to make this year, go for the new you you want to achieve any time. Go for the amount you want, and not what anyone else’s telling you, and do it fearlessly and with passion. And, as aside, hope you like the changes coming in the uss this year!! Return from time for change to the home page |
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